Living Heart Connected in a Hyper-Connected World

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Our world has become increasingly hyper-connected. News updates are broadcasted not just by media, but even by citizens witnessing events first hand and sharing it via social media. Information floods our lives at an astonishing rate and many of us are physically anchored to this data surge via our smart devices.

To remain grounded and balanced in our hyper-connected environment, it’s essential that we’re consciously choosing to stay heart-connected. Here’s a true story of how we can become disconnected without meaning to:

A woman who is totally dependent on a wheelchair asked a visiting friend to help her lower a window blind that had been left open and she wasn’t able to reach it to close it. Without looking up, the friend responded from a disconnected state as she stayed immersed in her smart phone. The response was, “Don’t you realize how busy I am.” The irony is that this friend had stopped over to see if she could be of service. Obviously the requested favor would take mere seconds. The friend allowed herself to get so fixated on her device that her response was out of touch and disconnected from that moment.

Becoming disconnected is a real issue of the 21st century. This isn’t to say if you have a smart device you’re disconnected — though most of using these devices can probably relate to the need of exercising balance. People can get immersed in many other things too, and the disconnection only happens when we allow it to.

Here are a few suggestions we can use to keep heart-connections the priority:

  • Start each day by setting a heart intention to be energetically present and connected with others.
  • Make a daily habit to connect with your heart using practices like Quick Coherence® that help you to align with a still and quiet place inside.
  • Value your connection with others. Instead of multi-tasking, put your device on airplane mode or vibrate to lessen distractions.
  • Pick up the phone or walk over to talk with someone instead of defaulting to text and email.
  • Take in your environment. For a moment or two breathe in the fresh air and look around. Appreciate nature; admire the architecture; smile and connect with people you pass by.

With life moving at a faster pace, it’s even more important that we pause the busyness and really connect with each other. With care, Your friends at HeartMath

Upgrading that Voice in your Head

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“Geez, you’re such an idiot!”

Would you let someone say this to your best friend? Probably not. But let’s be honest, how often do you say things like this to yourself?

We each have an internal “voice” that can run in the back of our minds all day long. When this self-talk is critical and demeaning, it reinforces negative beliefs and attitudes about who we truly are.

The good news is that we can replace the inner critic with a new “upgraded” voice that is more aligned with our heart essence.

Let this be a year of creating something new within our self. Let’s upgrade that dialogue inside, and choose a voice that better represents our authentic self.

Making a list of the more frequent self-defeating dialogues that go on inside can help increase awareness. After you create a list, then focus in the heart and ask yourself what would be a better outlook and attitude? Instead of saying I’m too out of shape to join a gym, for example, try, “This will be a good experience and it’s going to help me get in better shape.”

Daily reminders built into our routines are also helpful. For instance, say your positive attitude statement out loud each day. Do it in the morning when you’re getting ready for the day. Write your positive attitude statement on colorful sticky notes and place them where you’ll see them. Create reminders on your smartphone.

Another exercise to try is to take 30 minutes each day to pay attention to your inner dialogue, watching for negative self-talk. Whenever you hear a negative comment, stop that thought immediately and replace it with a new, positive inner message. Use the kind of compassionate approach that you’d have with someone you care about.

The more we can genuinely engage with these simple practices, the more our feelings and thoughts can start to align with a positive inner dialogue.

Remember: You deserve the same encouragement and compassion that you give to others!

With Care,
Your Friends at HeartMath

Taking It In Segments

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New Year’s Resolutions often come from our good intentions to better care for our self. Yet making behavior changes isn’t always easy. Even though we may know this, we often set goals that are hard to keep and then if we don’t reach it we get down on our self. No wonder it’s not a very effective process for so many of us.

What if we approach our resolutions and change one DAY at a time instead? We’re suggesting taking things in segments. This can really help prevent the feelings of overwhelm – and the self-bullying we tend to do when we think we won’t ever make our goal.

Using a segment approach allows us to be more present with each step we take towards a bigger goal, which makes for a more successful, lasting commitment.

This year consider the segment approach. Start by tuning into your heart for what change would most benefit you. You can do a heart focus exercise to quiet the mind and get the clarity needed. The Quick Coherence® technique works well for this.

Let’s say you want to create change towards being healthier. Identify the key steps you’ll need to take to reach that goal. For example, I can exercise more often, I can eat more fresh food, and I can get more rest.

Now, take it in segments. Try to do just one of these steps daily until you’ve integrated it into your routine. Once you’ve established a routine with that particular segment, add one more step into the process and so on. Stay present with each segment instead of projecting ahead and worrying about the future.

Some days may be better than others. If we have an off day, remember it is okay – that’s part of the process. Let’s be kind to our self and appreciate the brand-new day ahead of us – and see it as a fresh start.

Working on our resolutions in segments allows us to get better traction towards our goal while celebrating smaller victories along the way!

Wishing all of you a very happy and healthy new year!
Your Friends at HeartMath

Keeping Warm this Holiday Season

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It’s that time of year – the holidays are here; there’s a chill in the air and for many a warmth in our hearts. Most would agree there is a special energy that the holidays bring – it gives a lift in spirit. During this time of year a lot of us are naturally inclined to feel more generous. We may feel an even stronger desire to help lighten someone else’s load or to express our care and kindness more readily.

This special season has a way of increasing the family feeling around the world as billions of people celebrate their holiday traditions.

We open our hearts to our family, friends, co-workers and neighbors, and even to those we don’t know. We share expressions of the heart more openly.

Because this season can add an emotional brightness for most of us, it is also a great time to build on these feelings and gestures of the heart.

One way we can do this is when we meditate, pray or do a heart focused (coherence) session we can hold an intention of increasing our heart warmth and appreciation. As we focus on what we appreciate in our life, and feel the warmth in our heart building, we can imagine that this energy is going out to everyone around the world. Let’s especially send it to those who are struggling, lonely or going through tougher times.

Another way we can direct this added heart warmth is to start our day by holding it in our heart focus and carry it with us throughout the day and share it with others.

Let’s use this time of year to enjoy the added heart of the season. Together let’s build on it and see it connecting with millions of people around the world.

Our Warmest Holiday Wishes,
Your Friends at HeartMath

Holiday Rhythms

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Have you ever watched one of those holiday movies where everything is ideal? The holiday decorations to the festive dinner look picture perfect. Everyone is feeling cheery, even the snowflakes seem to sparkle with merriment.

The holidays can be a very happy and a very rewarding time of year. Yet not everyone will feel overwhelmingly jolly during the holidays. There are different degrees of happiness that we may feel — and we won’t always have uplifting moments at the exact same time as others.

Everyone’s mental, emotional and physical energies have different rhythms. Some may have more buoyancy and excitement, while others may be feeling quieter or more reflective. Whatever the rhythm, having acceptance of how we’re feeling can release any inner pressure we can put on ourselves or on each other because of what we think we “should” feel.

To help find more ease during the holidays try breathing in an inner attitude of acceptance to adjust to whatever rhythm we might find our self or others in. Breathe a little deeper and a little slower than usual as if you’re breathing through the heart area. This can help our mind and energy to stay more focused in the heart.

Even a little heart focus can help us adjust to the ebbs and flows of our holiday experiences

Regardless of what societal “shoulds” tell us about how to act and feel, the holidays don’t have to have a lot of fanfare to be meaningful. There may be times that a lower key holiday can be a uniquely nice experience. The quieter moments can often turn into opportunities to see people and places in a fresh light.

Wherever we fall on the spectrum, this is an important time of year to keep our heart sensitivity tuned to care and compassion for all, no matter what their variation of the holiday experience.

In the true holiday spirit let’s support each other by extending our patience and kindness – and let’s be sure this includes our self as well!

With Care,
Your Friends at HeartMath

What Are You Bringing to Your Thanksgiving Dinner?

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It’s Thanksgiving and most of us will be gathering with friends and family and considering what we can contribute to our holiday feast.

While we may be planning to bring a favorite dessert or special bottle of wine, keep in mind there is more that we’ll each be bringing to the festivities. We’ll be bringing an energetic contribution too.

Here’s an example of what we mean. Most of us have walked into a room right after two people had a heated discussion and we felt the tension in the air? You could cut it with a knife as the saying goes.

We’re feeling the collective energy of what just happened even though nobody has spoken. The collective room environment is based on the energy of each individual in that room. Similarly, we can walk into a room and feel the uplift when something fun or positive has just happened.

We may feel compelled to ask, “What?! What just happened?!” Then someone breaks the silence and gives the good news. Another example of how our energy extends outward has been documented by researchers at the HeartMath Institute (HMI.) They found when people touch or are in close proximity – there is an actual transfer of energy. The heart’s electromagnetic field (the most powerful rhythmic energy field produced by the body) can be detected by other individuals and can produce measurable effects in a person a few feet away.

Whether we are conscious of it or not, our feelings are emitted into the collective environment. Our individual energy not only affects us, our health and perspective on life, it also contributes to the environment wherever we are. Knowing this allows us to consciously choose to make the most important contribution as we gather at this special time, which is a heart-felt connection, appreciation for each other and all life, and compassion for those in challenging situations that can’t experience this gift or resonance at this time.

As we find ourselves sitting down for our holiday dinner let’s choose joy, kindness and whole hearted fun as we deepen our heart connections with each other. Ocassionally refreshing our commitment to this helps to sustain the moments and benefits of these special times.

Tips on adding more coherence:

  • Take a few quiet minutes to become centered in your heart space. Feel appreciation for something or someone. Let yourself soak in this feeling for a few moments.
  • Set your intention by seeing and feeling yourself maintaining more personal balance each day and in your interactions with others.
  • Call on your heart intelligence. Say to yourself, “If I start slipping into judgments, drama, frustration or resignation I will catch it quickly and I’ll shift back into my heart and reset my inner coherence. (note: Please don’t judge yourself for having a wobble. We all do at times.)
  • Focus in the heart a few minutes before holiday events. When you feel coherent in your heart, send gratitude, love and positive energy out to the gathering. On a friendly note – don’t be unrealistic about sending positive energy out. Keep in mind the attitudes of others have a lot to do with outcomes. However sending love and care benefits your system and can increase the ratio of positive outcomes in situations.

So this holiday when we find ourselves sitting down for dinner, remember we’re feeding more than our bodies, we’re feeding the field environment too. The more we can refresh our own inner attitudes, balance and coherence the more we can enjoy the savory feelings of gratitude, the deliciousness of kindness, and the sweetness of deeper heart connections. Bon Appéti!

Take care,
Your Friends at HeartMath

Love the Heart Hero In You

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The holiday spirit can bring out the heart hero in many of us. We feel inspired to be more charitable and help others. We find ourselves giving in the ways of favors, time, presents, visits, money and our services and more. Giving nurtures the heart and soul in us as well as those we give to. Yet to enjoy the holidays without becoming overwhelmed, over stretched and over committed we want to call on our inner heart hero for help.

This holiday season ask yourself what is your giving sweet spot? What can you do freely without overlooking your own balance? Even the most generous of hearts can sometimes use a gentle reminder to practice self-care so we can remain resilient throughout the holiday season.

Here are a few tips to care for the hero inside you:

  1. Remember to make yourself a priority. Building inner resilience requires self-care. Call on your inner heart hero to help make it happen. Make a commitment to do at least one nurturing activity a week—starting now.
  2. Remember to give yourself a break! Use your heart hero power to trade negative self-talk for self-kindness. Negative thoughts use precious energy that could go towards something productive. Replace them with positive, compassionate messages to give a real boost to your self-worth.
  3. Match body and mind. The mind and body are so interconnected that even our heart rhythms reflect what we’re feeling. Intentionally shift your heart rhythms to a coherent pattern to increase inner peace and ease throughout the holiday season. The Inner Balance™ app and the emWave2® device are tools to teach you how.
  4. Create a positive self-mantra. Choose a simple short phrase; repeat it every day. A mantra should speak to the emotional experience of what you’d like to create inside.
    • I am loving and kind towards myself first. This allows me to give to others from my place of balance.
    • Honoring and making time for my inner stillness practice will deepen my heart connection with others.
    • I appreciate myself for all that I am and all that I am becoming.
  5. Let it go! When interactions or situations trigger flared responses that send the mind on a negative tangent, ask your inner hero if this is really a good use of your energy and time? Use the Quick Coherence technique to realign with your authentic heart and shift to a more neutral approach.

Giving from the heart can be uplifting and deeply rewarding, just remember, you deserve the same heroic spirit—compassion, love, patience, and forgiveness—that you give to others.

Take care,
Your Friends at HeartMath

Heart Heroes Shaping the Future

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Larry Schwenneker went through many rough periods in his life – which in his youth included being involved with the wrong crowd and heading down destructive paths.

Larry was a Heart Hero to himself first by starting to heal himself from a lifetime of anger, depression and anxiety as a result of the various traumas in his life. The healing started for Larry when he was introduced to HeartMath as part of his treatment for a brain injury.

While he knows that time doesn’t necessarily reduce past trauma, he found the HeartMath tools and technology very helpful in managing the effects of the brain injury and softening the triggers of the past. Whereas other therapies such as cognitive behavior therapy and Gestalt had some benefit, HeartMath was instrumental in dealing with the anger, anxiety and depression that Larry had been experiencing for the better part of his life.

Today Larry is a HeartMath® Certified Coach and he’s using his past experiences, combined with his knowledge of HeartMath, as a way to speak to and reach young people. Larry works with young people, teaching them how they can peacefully resolve conflicts and develop healthy relationships in their communities. He says, “People don’t need to live like they do, but they do because they don’t know any better. If it can change me, it can change anybody!”

Now Larry is their Heart Hero. Using tools to empower a younger generation, he is helping them learn how they can navigate through life by using their own heart intelligence. “When they experience success, they have a willingness to practice.”

Our amazing team of certified coach mentors, like Larry, are truly Heart Heroes. They’re out in force empowering people of all ages with proven methods for creating a richer, happier life by learning how to tap into their own heart power.

In light of our celebration of Heart Heroes, we want to honor Larry and all of our HeartMath Certified Coaches and Mentors for the inspiring work they’re doing and for helping to create a heart-based world.

Here’s to the Heart Hero in You! – Your Friends at HeartMath

5 Tips to be Your own Heart Hero

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Make yourself a priority too.

How often do you do something nurturing for yourself? For many people, they may struggle to do it even once a month. Recognize that building our inner resilience requires self-care. How about making “you” a priority starting now?

Call on your inner heart hero to make it happen. Make a commitment to do at least one nurturing activity a week to care for yourself. More would be better but your inner heart hero will appreciate this as a starting point!

Give yourself a break!

We really can be hard on ourselves. Instead, use your hero power to trade negative self-talk for a little self-kindness. Whether it’s a quick passing criticism or an ongoing dialogue that’s negative – they both use precious energy that could go towards something productive.

Here’s an example how to replace the down slants – if the negative thought is, “I’m so stupid; I should know how to do this by now.” Stop the thought and replace it with a positive, compassionate message such as, “I’m still learning how to do this. No worries, I’ll get it down soon.” One week of genuine practice with this can give a real boost to our self-worth, and you’ll have yourself to appreciate for it.

Match Body and Mind.

Through science and technology you can now easily learn how to make changes to your mental and physical state. The mind and body is so interconnected that even our heart rhythms reflect what we’re feeling.

Learning to intentionally shift your heart rhythms to what is called a coherent pattern, can help to increase the amount of inner peace and ease you experience – and who couldn’t use a little more of that! The Inner Balance® and the emWave2® devices are tools to teach you how. They’re a proven method for minimizing stress and increasing personal resilience.

Create a Positive Self-Mantra.

This simple exercise can help maintain the awareness of something you want to change. Choose a simple short phrase; repeat it to yourself every day. Do it when you’re getting ready in the morning or when you’re driving. Do it to replace the old negative self-talk that want to occupy your quiet spaces. Create a mantra that really speaks to the emotional experience of what you want to create inside. A mantra might be something like:

  • I am loving and kind towards myself first. Then I have more I can give to others.
  • I do not take things personally. I am secure in myself.
  • I know I am of value. I don’t require others to enforce this for me.
  • I appreciate myself for all that I am and all that I am becoming.

Let it go!

You’ve likely heard this before – let the small stuff go. Sure certain things can trigger all of us and ignite the mind on a fiery tangent. Whether it’s something someone said, or something someone did or didn’t do. When this happens ask your inner hero is this worth my energy and time? Is mulling this over helping me become a better person? When you can’t quite shake it off consider taking a heart-focus break.

Use the Quick Coherence technique to realign with your authentic heart – your inner hero. If there truly is something that needs addressed, you’ll be glad your inner hero chose to shift the reaction first so you could have more of a neutral position in your approach.

A Big Lesson for any Parent

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Parenthood has taught me a lot. One of the biggest lessons presented itself not very long after my son was born: The importance of letting go.

I’ve had to learn to let go and let him sleep in his own room; let go and let him cross the street to play; let go and let him walk to school; let go and let him choose his clothes, his wife, his own path. It’s a life-long process and I still have times I have to remind myself, hey, this is not about me, is it?

It’s easy to worry, feel disappointed, be irritated or get annoyed by someone’s actions or choices because they aren’t what we want or expect or what we think we know is right. It’s easy to see others and operate more from our own perspective or agenda rather than what is needed or important or best for the other person. And sometimes, when we do get what we want, we discover it wasn’t the best of all possibilities after all.

Expectations are like icebergs. Whether it’s the actions we expect co-workers to take, the recognition we think we deserve, or the careers we want our children to choose, we rarely see the depth of possibilities that exist just beneath the surface. When we attach ourselves to one outcome, we can’t see all that might eventually emerge if we just let it go.

We can save a tremendous amount of energy when we accept that people will not always act as expected or in ways that suit us. This doesn’t mean losing control; it means acknowledging that in most cases we’re not in control and don’t need to be for things to turn out okay.

Accept the unpredictable nature of life. Let go of expectations and view the world around you from a new and more spontaneous perspective. Be more flexible and ready to adapt and respond to whatever may come your way with more intelligence, more creativity and more balance.

Expect only the unexpected!

Take care,
Kim Allen