Compassionate Latitude: The need of the times

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Life seems to be calling on us to have more compassionate latitude for each other and for ourselves during these volatile times.

A recently released Gallup poll reported record levels of stress in the USA: 55% of Americans experience stress a lot of the day; 45% feel a lot of worry; and 22% feel a lot of anger.

Similar increases are occurring in other nations as well, largely fueled by an amplification of separatist views and actions resulting in non-inclusive choices based on fear and mixed motives. This restricts people’s heart energy from flowing through their interactions and blocks opportunities for new solutions for the greater good to manifest.

Compassionate latitude increases our care and flexibility with others’ shortcomings or missteps—recognizing that almost all of us are probably experiencing similar challenges, along with highs and lows in our thoughts and feelings. Understanding this can help us treat each other in ways we would desire for ourselves.

Compassion helps raise the vibration of the individual and collective environment. It helps us connect with our higher reasoning capacity to make smarter choices while managing the infectious waves of stress and insecurity that are on the rise. Latitude is an attitude that includes qualities such as being less critical and more patient and tolerant with each other yet not having to agree with or condone another’s views or actions.

Taking a heart-stand regarding our opinions differs from taking a mind-stance—which results in separation and its energy-draining complications. Practicing compassionate latitude with others can help reduce judgments, separation and stress, making it easier to find balance and flow in our time-pressed interactions. Living with irritation, judgments and anger constrains our heart energy in interactions and communication. This can become our ingrained norm, resulting in much of the stress and challenges we experience while passing the blame to others. 

Practicing compassionate latitude is a missing piece of the individual and collective peace equation.

Compassion Carries Health Benefits

The very act of being compassionate provides health benefits. A study published in the Journal of Advancement in Medicine that was conducted by the HeartMath Institute showed that feeling compassion can cause a significant increase in salivary IgA levels, a key immune system marker. Researchers at the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism Research found that compassion training led to a general decrease in anxiety and an increase in calmness (which is getting harder to access with collective stress on the rise).

Social scientists at Harvard found that helping others is contagious; seeing acts of kindness and compassion inspires others to be their best selves. Many people share with us that practicing compassionate latitude has significantly helped to prevent and reduce their underlying anger and intolerance with others.

We can increase our compassionate latitude easily with practice.

An Exercise for Increasing Compassionate Latitude

  • Start with quiet breathing while radiating feelings of gratitude. This helps to shift our energy from the mind to the heart.
  • Next, ponder some situations in which you could give others more compassionate latitude at work, at home, while watching the news, by sorting out miscommunications, and so on.
  • Now visualize yourself replacing judgments, angered responses, lack of tolerance and separation with compassionate latitude for others and yourself. Practicing for several days in a row helps to anchor a person in this valuable habit and can bring quick results in preventing much stress. (Practicing self-compassion is becoming one of the most popular tools for personal stress relief, resilience, and resetting our system toward a positive orientation.)
  • Now, radiate compassion and latitude to people with different beliefs from your own and to those whose polarizing views are creating separation, stress and chaos. Compassionate latitude carries the understanding that most people are doing the best they can considering their personal challenges and stress overload.
  • Practice sending genuine care and compassion to all beings who are suffering hardships throughout the planet. Radiating our love and compassion benefits the sender and receiver, as we are all connected.

Collective humanity will infinitely benefit when compassion becomes a way of life rather than just an occasional practice. It’s the way of the heart.

HeartMath Health Professional Education Series: Tim Culbert

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Dr. Culbert co-created, with an interdisciplinary team, one of the first full service integrative pediatrics programs at Children’s Hospitals and Clinics of Minnesota where he served as Medical Director from 2001-2010.

He wrote a series of four books for children on holistic self-care titled, Be the Boss of Your Body.

Dr. Culbert also developed innovative training in integrative therapeutics for nurses working in pediatric medical and mental health settings.

He is an instructor for the HeartMath Interventions Training Program for Health Professionals.

In his presentation he will discuss:

• His approach to reducing anxiety and stress in adults, children, teens, and families

• How to use a HeartMath technique and the Heart Rate Variability technology with a patient for anxiety

• Case studies and results



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The Inside Job of Creating Peace – by Doc Childre

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Many people hope and pray to find peace in their lives, especially during times of stress and uncertainty. Finding peace is an inside job – something we can learn to create. Research studies have shown that individuals, groups and organizations are capable of creating peace from within. This involves easy-to-use tools that require only a tiny fraction of the time that many of us spend on stressful responses to challenges in our daily lives; tools that can prevent much mental and emotional stress and energy drain.

Inner Peace Starts with Inner-Ease

Several years ago, I created a tool called the Inner-Ease™ Technique to help people move through their day in a state of ease. At HeartMath, we have found that practicing inner-ease creates balance, alignment and cooperation between the heart, mind and emotions. Practicing inner-ease also promotes more intuitive connection for effective reasoning, discernment and choices that can prevent much dis-ease.

When we create alignment between the heart, mind and emotions, we lift our vibration above much of the stress going on and choose attitudes that create more inner peace and “flow” in our daily routines.

Here are the four quick steps and some of the benefits people experience.

Inner-Ease™ Technique

(abbreviated version)

  1. When you are stressed, acknowledge your feelings.
  2. Take a short time-out to do Heart-Focused Breathing.
    (Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual. Find an easy rhythm that’s comfortable.)
  3. Now imagine with each breath that you are drawing in a feeling of inner-ease.
  4. When the stressful feelings have calmed, affirm with a heartfelt commitment that you want to anchor and maintain the state of ease throughout your projects, challenges and daily interactions.

Click here to download The State of Ease e-booklet, with the full steps of the Inner-Ease Technique.

Benefits of Practicing Inner-Ease

1. Attunes your mental and emotional nature to the most reasonable and effective way for responding to situations in your life.

2. Creates more inner peace and flow in your day by helping to regulate the balance and cooperation between your heart, mind and emotions.

3. Accesses the heart’s intuitive guidance for intelligent solutions to problems.

4. Prevents and eliminates much personal stress and promotes faster recovery from stressful occurrences.

5. Helpful and effective to use as a “prep” before engaging in potentially stressful situations.

6. Creates much easier navigation through challenges and resistances at their onset.

Know that you can create more inner-ease/inner peace with this technique or other methods that work for you. It is our fervent wish at HeartMath that every individual, group and organization recognize that creating peace is not escaping action — it enables more intelligent action. Activating peace and ease within is our greatest hope for collective peace in this world.

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves. 

Dalai Lama

HeartMath Senior Trainers Bring Heart Coherence to the United Nations as a Proven Method for the Inner and Outer Work of Peace Building

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If ever there was a forum to discuss heart coherence and how this equates to increased peace, as well as how we can help bring more of this to the world, the United Nations is the ideal place to have this conversation.

We are honored to have had HeartMath represented as one of the very few presentations provided for the United Nations capacity building and knowledge workshops held at the 2019 High-level Political Forum on Sustainable Development (HLPF).

Robert Browning and Sheva Carr at the UN

Sheva Carr and Robert Browning, HeartMath co-directors & senior trainers, recently presented HeartMath science and techniques at this event in partnership with Heart Ambassadors, the Business Plan for Peace, Pathways to Peace, and the Center for International Development Law. Together, they provided a platform to discuss practical actions and best practices for empowering individuals through increasing personal coherence and creating peaceful societies through peer-to-peer collaboration and coherence.

Robert Browning and Sheva Carr

The Division for Sustainable Development Goals, UN Department of Economic and Social Affairs (UN DESA/DSDG), and the United Nations Institute for Training and Research (UNITAR) organized this 2019 edition of the Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs) Learning, Training & Practice – a series of capacity building and knowledge workshops held at the 2019 HLPF, which featured speakers and experts from academia and other sectors on crucial topics related to the implementation of the 2019 SDGs.

To see the United Nations resilience/inner peace presentation that Sheva Carr and Robert Browning presented at the HLPF, click here.

Why You Can’t Sleep At Night And What You Can Do About It

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It’s harder to sleep in these times. Articles are written every day about the subject. Your reason for tossing and turning at night may be different from mine. But the result is the same. We’re foggy and tired the next day. We keep ourselves alert with coffee, sugar or other stimulants. Then we crash and drag and can’t remember where we left our car keys. Up and down we go. We stay up late to get things done, like “just one-more-email” which stimulates one more. We watch TV to chill before bed but then the theme of the last show we watched takes over our brain and creates restless sleep – if we’re lucky. For many of us, worries and concerns we’ve been pushing aside finally get their time to play out on the stage of our minds without distraction. Where’s that sleeping pill to shut it all off? But that sleeping pill just leaves us dragging again the next day.

We all know the statistics. Not enough sleep affects our emotional well-being, our cognitive clarity, our relationship communications, our performance on the job or elsewhere, our sense of connection to spirit or self, and ultimately our long-term health. We get anxious about not sleeping, which only makes it harder to sleep. Anxiety releases adrenaline which prompts body and mind into action–the opposite of what we need for sleeping. It’s a catch-22. Many of us have tried a lot of the recommended common sense remedies and still often find ourselves lying awake a good part of the night. What are we to do?

If this describes you or someone you care about, there is one place you may not have looked for help that’s about one to two feet under your nose, depending on how tall you are. That place is your heart.

Three Ways Your Heart Can Help You Sleep Better

Your heart beats in a rhythm. Research at the Institute of HeartMath shows that when you are worried, anxious, frustrated – stressed – that rhythm becomes irregular. The more stressed you are, the more chaotic your heart rhythm pattern becomes. So what makes the heart rhythm smooth out quickly? Research shows it’s positive feelings, like love, care, gratitude, appreciation, compassion or joy. These feelings not only feel good but are good for you. They order your heart rhythms, reduce cortisol and increase DHEA (the vitality hormone) to help you sleep more soundly and wake up more energized and refreshed.

When your heart rhythm pattern becomes smooth and ordered, it’s called a coherent rhythm. Below is a picture. You can see how jagged and incoherent the heart rhythm pattern is when you’re anxious or frustrated and how smooth and sine-wave like (coherent) it becomes when you’re feeling appreciation.

sleep-graph

What’s cool is that both graphs are of the same person feeling one way then the other within a period of a couple minutes. What’s even cooler is that scientists have found that the smooth, coherent rhythm is the pattern your heart rhythm naturally goes into during deep sleep. So why not give it some help? Here’s how you can:

When you close your eyes at night, tell yourself you aren’t going to overdramatize your concerns about sleeping. Here’s a heart-focused technique we call Attitude Breathing® to help create the coherent rhythmic pattern that can facilitate deeper and more effective sleep:

* Gently breathe an attitude of calm, ease and relaxation for a minute or two. * When relaxed, then breathe an attitude of appreciation, gratitude or love for someone or something–a pet, a time in nature, etc.

* Do this for a few minutes or so to activate the heart rhythms that help release beneficial hormones which reduce stress and restore your system.

If you go to bed with that stressed, jagged heart rhythm pattern, it can disrupt your sleeping rhythms. During deep sleep your breathing and heart rhythms are quieter, your metabolic rate slows and hormonal rhythms change. The stress hormones cortisol and epinephrine (adrenaline) decrease. However, when these rhythms are disrupted, then sleeping restfully or waking up refreshed is hard to come by.

Have you ever noticed what happens when you go to bed without resolving a real or imagined conflict with someone? Your mind won’t stop rehashing what you could have or should have said. Your heart can help.

Respect yourself and the other person. If you can, communicate with her before you go to bed and with open-heartedness and latitude, try to work it out. Check to see if there’s something you need to correct within yourself to help the situation. Apologize if you need to and listen from your heart with an attitude of genuine care. Ask questions to sincerely understand where she is coming from, even if you think you know. If you can’t reach the person, talk about the problem with someone who won’t just agree with you but may provide another point of view. Then talk to the person as soon as you can. Don’t chicken out. Even if the situation doesn’t resolve right away, you can release yourself more knowing that you tried. Breathing the attitude of self-compassion has helped many people in “hard-to-resolve” situations.

Realize that what you do during the day also affects how you sleep at night. When you allow stress to build-up during the day, it throws off your body’s rhythms and can lead to overload, headaches, backaches, indigestion, energy drain and more. Your heart generates the strongest rhythm in the body, and your brain and nervous system entrain to your heart’s rhythm, whether coherent or incoherent. This exciting research is available if you want to learn more.

Getting your heart into a coherent rhythm a couple times during the day helps release stress as you go and helps reset your body’s rhythms for better sleep at night. Here’s how.

Take a coherence break in-between activities, at your desk, on a break, or anywhere. Shift focus to your heart (look at picture of a loved one, remember a favorite pet, or recall a time in nature) and feel appreciation or gratitude. It’s important that the appreciation be heartfelt (not just from the mind) to activate heart coherence and hormones that help bring harmony and stability to your mental and emotional processes. Breathe the true feeling or attitude of appreciation through the area of your heart for a minute or two (without mentally multi-tasking as you do this). Taking coherence breaks also increases balance and resilience and helps you listen to your heart’s intuitive guidance on what else you need to do to release stress.

What’s Streaming through Your Mind?

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How-To-Change Thought Streams That Don’t Serve Our Best Interests

We’re all streaming content these days, whether it be a movie on our computer, a podcast on our phone, or the ideas streaming through our heads. We can choose the external content we want to focus on. But what about the streaming content inside? Do we allow streaming conversations of self-doubt, worry, anger or blame to play on and own us?

Streaming negative self-talk is often a constant source of personal energy drain. Let’s take a deeper look and explore some suggestions that can help us take charge.

Most of us are conscious of the whisper thoughts and feelings constantly running through our awareness – whether at home, at work, sleeping, or riding in an Uber. Most of these thoughts move through quickly if we don’t feed them, yet occasionally a “downer” thought will snag our focus and begin to loop and grow in feeling. Downer thoughts can crash the effectiveness of a whole day or longer once they expand into anger, harsh judgments, hurt feelings, or guilt for feeling that way. Downer projections especially, can own us for hours and it’s humorous how we can be aware of this yet can’t seem to do much to manage it. (That is, until from our heart, we decide that we can.)

Renewing Heart Qualities Can Help Us Take Charge

On the positive side, some whisper thoughts and feelings renew us and support us being our best. We can benefit by creating a conscious habit of noticing and energizing renewing thoughts and feelings. It’s also helpful to take some time each day to engage in higher vibrational thoughts and actions, such as kindness, gratitude, compassion, helping others, etc. These uplifting heart qualities help to offset the stress accumulation from thought loops and feelings that drain our energy and strain our ability to reason and make comfortable choices.

So much is happening in shorter durations of time these days that our mind and emotions easily get overloaded. This often triggers anxiety, worry and fear projections. It’s helpful to practice shifting feelings of worry or fear into the attitude of managed concern. Managed concern is an emotionally balanced state of concern that connects us with a clearer view and effective reasoning. Worry and fear tend to overpower our access to effective reasoning and perception. They especially dim our heart’s intuitive suggestions and solutions, which can be critical at times. Excessive worry is one of the stealthiest ways we sabotage our well-being, and then we worry more because we can’t figure out what caused the problem.

How to Practice Managed Concern

Practice identifying some of your worries that stir fear or anxiety, then experiment with shifting them into the attitude of managed concern. The attitude of experimenting is a lighter approach which results in less self-judgment of your performance. Practice first with smaller issues to build your confidence. Before each practice, review the benefits of managed concern (intelligent concern) compared to the energy drain from excessive worry. Soon it will become an automatic reflex to make an attitude adjustment when you sense looping feelings and perceptions that destabilize your well-being.

Practicing managed concern along with engaging in renewing heart qualities, such as kindness, patience and compassion with ourselves and others can make a big difference in the vibrational quality of our day-to-day experience. We can feel under pressure at times, but eventually this presses us to finally realize that we have more power, in most cases, over how we choose to think, feel and respond to situations. We can take charge of streaming internal content once our heart’s commitment supports our mind’s intention. Positive results will follow genuine efforts. It’s up to each of us.

Solution for Overcoming Anxiety

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Recognizing Anxiety

Originally published in 2010

Anxiety can be described as any or a combination of feelings that all have their roots in some type of fear, including unease, worry, apprehension, dread, powerlessness or a sense of impending danger – real or imagined. Symptoms can be wide-ranging: the mind goes blank or other cognitive functions are lost, obsessive thoughts, phobias, chronic worry, ongoing unease, sweaty palms, tension headaches, trembling, difficulty breathing, dizziness, panic attacks, increased heart rate and palpitations. Anxiety disorders such as panic attacks may result from certain physiological conditions, most notably heart arrhythmias, and anyone who experiences this should seek immediate advice to make sure the cause of the attacks is not physical.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 40 million American adults – that’s 18% of the population – have anxiety disorders, which often begin in childhood. Social phobia alone, when people become overwhelmingly anxious and excessively self-conscious in everyday social situations, affects 15 million adults, and specific phobias, an intense fear of something that poses little or no actual danger, affects 19.2 million adults in the U.S.

“Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.”Arthur Somers Roche, American journalist, writer, 1883-1935.

Anxiety is a feeling, a type of emotion. Some anxiety such as fight or flight is encoded in our genetic makeup and is a normal human response to many of life’s uncertainties. Among them nervousness over an impending test or a sought-after job, uneasiness in a relationship or concern over the health of a loved one, speaking or performing in public, or worry in the workplace for a variety of reasons (the most common being the employee performance review). It is when anxiety becomes exaggerated that this otherwise natural human emotion can threaten our well-being

“As the turbulence of anxiety churns in the subconscious and plays out in your thoughts and actions … it can cause fatigue, sleep disorders, hormone imbalances, health problems and premature aging.”“Transforming Anxiety”, Childre, Rozman 2004.

Years of research by the HeartMath Institute has shown you can achieve a healthy balance in your emotions. Learn to stop feeding anxious feelings, create new emotional patterns and behaviors and replace the negative ones that have been draining your energy and spirit. HeartMath scientific research and controlled studies have shown your own “heart intelligence” holds the key to this transformation. By achieving coherence in your heart, mind and spirit you can maintain a calm, balanced, yet alert state at home, school, work and play.

A HeartMath TIP:

You’ll be amazed at how much calmer and relaxed you feel after trying these three quick steps adapted from the HeartMath Notice and Ease® tool, which has helped so many reduce their anxiety.

  • Notice and admit what you are feeling.
  • Try to name the feeling.
  • Tell yourself to e-a-s-e—as you gently focus in your heart, breathe a little slower and deeper than usual, and e-a-s-e the stress out.

Benefits of Reducing Anxiety

  • Stress hormones decrease, energy level increases, and you feel better
  • Stronger, more satisfying relationships
  • Quality of life and feeling of empowerment increases
  • Reduce “overwhelm” – time pressure, information and stimulation overload, mentally scattered feelings and impatience.
  • Decrease projections of worst-case scenarios, negative thinking
  • Improved memory, cognitive functions

How I Healed my Anxiety Naturally

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If you watch my live show on Instagram called The Daily Vibe, chances are, you’ve heard me talk about HeartMath. I admit I have a slight obsession… or maybe you could say, they’ve captured my heart.

I actually stumbled upon them during a dark time in my life when I was experiencing obsessive anxiety. I would worry all day, every day. I had these thought patterns doing loops in my head, going round and round and it was effecting every part of my life.

At the time, I didn’t feel “safe” in my life. I didn’t feel a sense of security, so I worried all the time. When you don’t feel safe, it’s hard to relax because you’re in a constant state of fight or flight.

I was desperate to find something that could heal my anxiety because I couldn’t go on living like this any longer. I went to see a doctor who prescribed me an antidepressant. The pills ended up making me feel worse and when I returned to the doctor, she told me that these new “side effects” I was experiencing was my anxiety manifesting itself as new symptoms.

I was stunned. She was basically telling me that it was all in my head. She blamed the side effects on my anxiety but I knew in my heart it was from the medication. I stopped taking them and the side effects subsided but I was back to square one with racing thoughts and not having anything that could help me.

From there I started searching for natural and holistic remedies. I stumbled upon HeartMath one day, and when I tried their heart-breathing technique, I could immediately feel a difference. I closed my eyes and felt into my heart-space. I began to breathe slowly and feel a calmness begin to wash over me. Next, they ask you to activate “higher feelings” such as gratitude, compassion or appreciation. This brings your energy from a state of “dissonance” into a state of “coherence” which shifts your energy into harmony and balance. Learning this changed my life.

​Before Heart Coherence, I was living in a state of constant dissonance. Dissonance means imbalance or disharmony. When you’re in this state, you are most likely in a state of fight or flight, so your body can’t relax. Your body is busy trying to fight off a bad guy or get the heck outta there. So as you can imagine, daily anxiety can wreak havoc on your life and you mental, physical and emotional health as well.

When I look back on pictures of myself during that time for my life I am almost unrecognizable. I wasn’t healthy. My skin looked awful, I had bags and dark circles under my eyes, and my hair had thinned out and become brittle. All of the stress and anxiety was prematurely aging me and you could actually see sadness and distress in my eyes.

HeartMath was a game changer. In these quiet moments when I would channel my breath and tune into my heart… I had glimpses of relief. This was a start! I had finally found SOMETHING that could help me, and the best part was, it’s natural and FREE.

I began to make HeartMath a part of my day to day life.

Anytime I was feeling anxious, I would find a place where I could be quiet and still and focus on my breath. I would place my hand on my heart and tune into the heart-space. Next, I would take some slow, deep breaths and activate higher feelings. I would begin to think about my daughters and FEEL all the love and appreciation I had for them in my heart. I would think of all the ways that I am GRATEFUL for them and how happy I am to be their Mommy. Next, I would feel feelings of compassion for them and their journey on this planet… and after about 5 minutes I would notice myself feeling more calm, centered, harmonized and balanced.

I loved the way that felt so I kept it going to see how euphoric I could become. As you go deeper and deeper into a state of coherence, you feel better and better. But you have to remember to set aside time to practice this and be diligent about it every day, because this practice works best when you do it consistently.

Each day as you bring your energy into harmony and balance, your energy builds stronger and you gain a more powerful momentum. And eventually you UPLEVEL into a new higher state of vibration. Your “baseline” shifts, from a dominant low vibration into a higher vibration and your life starts to flow better. Each day as you bring yourself into harmony, you are operating from a state of alignment and when you are in alignment, everything you want starts to flow with ease. ​

​I am forever grateful that I found my way to HeartMath and eventually HeartMath found its way to me, too. I recently had the honor of taking HeartMath’s online course called “The Add Heart Facilitator Program.” In this course, you learn all about Heart Coherence and how the brain and heart interact and affect your energy in your day to day life. You are guided to journal about different ways you can “Add More Heart” to your life.

I can’t wait to share more ways that HeartMath and the Add Heart Facilitator have helped me and have been a blessing, so look for my next blog when I share with you real stories on how HeartMath and the Add Heart Facilitator Program is changing my life.

Special thanks to my friends at HeartMath for sending me the Add Heart Facilitator Course!

​Love, Light & Positive Energy,
​Shannon Nicole

Article used with permission from Vibe with Shannon

Women and Stress

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It has often been shown that women are the worriers and often do not make time to manage their health and take care of themselves. The infographic below shows what effects stress can have on women and offers effective strategies that can help them reduce the negative effects of everyday stressors. 

How A Pause Can Save The Day

Posted on | by Doc Childre

Article updated March 2022, originally published, April, 2019

“To pause before responding to important matters and choices gives us one more chance to be in-charge, rather than be in-trouble.”- Doc Childre

Through hindsight, we often realize how much stress we could have prevented by pausing to reconsider our choices before taking action. Many of us have learned this lesson many times over: for example, sometimes our heart nudges us to take a pause before releasing an angered response to an e-mail and we don’t listen. We mechanically press send and often second-guess ourselves the minute we click the mouse.

Then we become compressed, foreseeing the predictable stress we’ll experience from the backlash, and we are usually right – sometimes its days before all is well in the building. Pausing to review our feelings could have prevented this energy depleting scenario. There are myriad situations where we sacrifice our wellbeing because we allow hurry to jam our intuitive nudges to pause before sensitive engagement.

Practicing Pause and Calm

Pausing to feel our heart’s suggestions can deter many energy-draining standoffs with others, often with people we care about the most. We can proactively avoid these repeating, uncomfortable situations and regrets. Practicing pause and calm is increasing in popularity as a respected self-care practice, especially in these sped-up times of change, uncertainty and pressurized choices.

Many of us learned the value of pause from parents and passed it on as wisdom to our children. However, as life’s demanding pace keeps increasing, the memory to pause often fades when we are under pressure for speedy choices and actions. Speed may quicken action but pausing to review can make the effective difference in where our actions land us.

This writing is not to reinvent the intelligence of pause and review; it’s to hopefully inspire a renewed connection, if needed, with this effective habit of preemptive wisdom through these chaotic, yet adventuresome times.

What Jams Your Inner Signal?

Hurry is one of the most popular reasons we miss our inner signals to pause when needed. Much stress is prevented by pausing at times to adjust our operational pace to the speed of flow. When we speed past flow – mentally, emotionally or physically – we become vulnerable to dilution of efficiency in our outcomes. Picture how trying to thread a needle too fast jams the process, creating many do-overs until we manifest the speed of flow that matches our level of skill and experience. When our mental and emotional energies jam from anxiety, frustration or overwhelm, it’s effective to pause and ask our heart’s intuition what attitude or perception would create the most flow for restoring inner balance and clear direction.

Suggestions Regarding Pause:

  1. Breathing in the feeling of calm while practicing pause deepens our discernment capacity.
  2. Calm vibrations help us preempt our toxic reaction with conscious responses.
  3. Pause to create a space for smarter choices and less stressful outcomes.
  4. Pause and ask what your heart would say. Feel what your heart would do. Step into it.
  5. To increase your memory to pause at times, make it a big issue for a week, even if you overdo it. This will entrain your intuition to alert you when pausing would be effective.
  6. Practicing pause quickly increases self-security from experiencing less mistakes, setbacks and do-overs. Self-security automatically increases our resilience.
  7. Pausing and listening to others from our heart helps to keep our friends, friendly.
  8. Pausing allows a more inclusive assessment of consequences before action – which is one of the biggest benefits from the practice.
  9. Make an intention not to keep learning the value of pause through hindsight and hard lessons. We are already good at that.
  10. Use pause and calm as a door opener for your higher reasoning capacity. That’s why we tell our children to use pause.

We hope this article helps you remember to refresh yourself with the value and many benefits of this tool, if needed.


Adapted with permission from the HeartMath Institute.

Written by Doc Childre